10/10/2014

Please Don't Say "I Could Never Do That"

I've been homeschooling for about 8 weeks. And I already couldn't tell you how many times I've heard things like this:

"I don't know how you do it!"

"I could never do that."

"I'm not patient enough to homeschool."

"I'm not organized enough to homeschool."

"I'm not ______ enough to homeschool."

Well, you know what? Neither am I. 

I do it because I want to. Because I (we) think it's best for our family. NOT because it's easy or I'm super organized or whatever.

If there's anything I've learned in the past weeks of schooling (and past 6 years of being a Stay at Home Mom) it's that it's anything but easy. And I feel less organized every day. 

That doesn't mean I'm going to give up.

Saying those things is the equivalent of saying, "I don't know how you can send your child to school everyday. Isn't that hard? Don't you miss them?" I'd venture to say it is hard for you some days. But it's your choice. You aren't doing it because it's easy or you're super organized or whatever, are you?

So please, please, don't assume that because someone has made the choice to homeschool, that's it comes naturally or easily. Because chances are, it doesn't. The hard things never do, do they?


Whew! Glad I got that off my chest in a totally non-passive-aggressive way.


10/02/2014

The Real Enemy

A few verses that have been holding me up lately: 

Be strong and do not give up, for your work will be rewarded. - 2 Chron 15:7

Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me. - Psalm 51:10

It was good for me to be afflicted so that I might learn your decrees. - Psalm 119:71

Before I was afflicted I went astray, but now I obey your word. - Psalm 119:67

May those who seek my life
    be disgraced and put to shame;
may those who plot my ruin
    be turned back in dismay.

May they be like chaff before the wind,
    with the angel of the Lord driving them away; 

may their path be dark and slippery,
    with the angel of the Lord pursuing them. - Psalm 35: 4-6


For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places. - Eph 6:12 

This last verse is one I've really been holding onto lately. Or at least trying to anyway. Probably the best advice I've ever gotten in any situation is that the devil does not want our family (any family) to succeed. I believe one of his major goals is to break up families. If he can do that, then communities (societies) crumble.

Knowing that helps me so much. It helps me to shift the blame from people who maybe aren't living up to my lofty expectations to the one behind the mayhem. As a side note, the word 'mayhem' was the first one that came to mind. Check out the definition:

: actions that hurt people and destroy things : a scene or situation that involves a lot of violence 
a :  willful and permanent deprivation of a bodily member resulting in the impairment of a person's fighting ability
b :  willful and permanent crippling, mutilation, or disfigurement of any part of the body 
:  needless or willful damage or violence

I'd say that pretty much sums up with the devil tries to do. "Needless or willful damage"? Yup.

I hope some of this encourages you as it does me. If you're struggling with something or someone, remember who your real enemy is!